Teaching our children to Cope with Bullies

Teaching our children to Cope with Bullies

Did you know that so many are trying to teach their children how to cope with bullies, but you might be raising one?

How you talk around your children, how you judge others might be enough for your child to assume it is okay to make fun of others that are different.
We need to be careful about how we talk about others when around our children.

If you are struggling right now with you or your child being bullied, watch Joanne’s story and see how she coped.  Then continue watching as she teaches you not only how to cope but helps you understand how our unintentional words can cause our children to also become bullies.  Joanne has some very helpful tips due to a lot of experience. She is a mom who has been bullied quite a lot of her life and is now also dealing with it for her child.

I think we have all had to deal with a bully at least once in our life. but let’s also not be the reason for allowing our children to be bullies.  Our words, our actions, our judgments are being watched every day. We are the example that our children follow. So be a good one. Think about what you are saying within earshot of your children. Think about what you are doing in front of your children. Understand that your actions will be followed closely by your children.
Check out this link of a mom who had to put up with a bully in a restaurant.

Click here to see what I did to help my son learn how to cope with bullies.

My Challenge to you as a Parent

My Challenge to you as a Parent

My Challenge to you as a Parent

I would love to challenge you to remember that each stage that you go through is a gift.  There are good and bad in each stage, but the important thing to remember is that you must learn to appreciate each stage for all it offers. These treasures you will uncover along the way are not only for your child’s benefit but for yours and to all those that are part of this child’s life. The things that are tough are just as important if not more so than the things that come easy.  You must remember that this child is unique, and so it stands to reason that there may be unique ways you should handle this child.  You might need guidance along the way because they might not think like you, act like you or respond like you.  The easiest thing in the world to do is crush the uniqueness out of your child by not taking the time to ensure you are responding correctly.  I know as I screwed this up many times.

The biggest lesson I have learned about being a parent is that your child will count on you to make them feel valued and worthy.  When you show your child that you love them just because they are your child and for no other reason, you are validating their existence and allowing them to experience how much you value them. Your child should not feel as if they need to do something to be worthy. That is what I grew up believing, which is why it was so hard for me to believe that anyone would find any value in me.

Lastly, don’t assume that your child will be perfect, and they can do no wrong, but love them through and more importantly, despite the wrong they will do.  Do not make excuses for your children’s mistakes.  Do not cover them up. Teach your child to recognize when they do something wrong, confess it, and move on.

I know who my children are and I can see them for who they are now and for all they have the potential to be in the future. They are not perfect in any of these areas, but they are learning, as we all are, who they are, what they are capable of and this is what their journey is all about.  I have told my children, “You are not born completely into all you will be.  You are born with all the potential you can be. It is my job as your parent to help show you your potential.”

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