Chores done without the fight

Chores done without the fight

The Chore Wars: those constant battles of trying to get your children to do chores and yet keeping peace in the house? Is it possible to have both?

You work hard all day and then come home to a dirty house and your child is sitting in front of the t.v.
They say, ‘hey, I’ve been to school all day.
Really, and you think I have been sitting in my office all day eating bonbon?

Or you are a stay-at-home mom, and your kids don’t think you work hard so you should clean up. They shouldn’t have to do chores.
Really, because you haven’t spent all day just scrubbing floors, or bathrooms, cooking dinners, grocery shopping, changing diapers, running after little ones ensuring they are not touching things they should. Or for the older children driving them here, there and everywhere.  Right? You do nothing but sit at home watching Netflix and eating bonbons.

And so, it begins. Miscommunication is innate in every family.
Children thinking you are asking too much of them and that you don’t do much at all in your day.

You are frustrated with your children because all you have asked them to do is clean their room.  Or pick up their own dishes or put the shoes and backpack away when they get home. These simple little chores seem so hard to teach them and it causes tension and daily fighting in the home. Making it so you dread leaving work.

  • Is there a better way?
  • Can you calm the chaos that comes into the home when you ask your kids to do a chore?
  • How do you get your kids to do chores?
  • Should you pay for Chores done, and why or why not?

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Terminal Illness & Parenting Teens Part 1 & 2

Terminal Illness & Parenting Teens Part 1 & 2

Are you dealing with a terminal illness in your home and trying to parent as well? Not easy and no easy answers.
Watch as Polly unfolds their story.
In Part 1: she talks mainly about the illness, the progression and how it affected them as a family.
Part 2 is where she discusses the issues she struggled with in parenting 2 teen boys while dealing with her husband that was terminally ill.
She dealt with boys who struggled with
* self-image,
* self-awareness,
*feeling lost and confused,
*sexual issues,
*drug issues,
*school issues.

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Consequences / Anna-Marie #PWP Talk Show

Consequences / Anna-Marie #PWP Talk Show

Do you struggle with staying consistent with your consequences?

Do you have a partner that is making it hard for you to do so?

Watch as Anna Marie explains the struggles she and her hubby, and family goes through when they are not in agreement.  Struggling to keep it real, keep consequences relevant and yet not so hard as to be a pain to ensure they are followed through on. Trying to ensure both parents are on the same page.  Is that even possible? If not, how do you handle that?

What kind of consequences do you think are good ones.
Pick from this list and tell us what you usually use and why.

  1. Time outs (with a stool or in bedrooms)
  2. Taking something of value away from them, like computer time, television time
  3. Not allowing them out of the house, or what we call ‘grounding’ them.
  4. Giving extra chores up and above their regular chores
  5. Spankings, or tapping on the hands for little children
  6. Making them go to their rooms and wait until the other parent gets home to dole out a different punishment
  7. Making them write outlines and or phrases
  8. Asking the teachers for extra homework
  9. Taking away allowances (if they get one if not taking away gift money)
  10. If they have done something against another child, make them apologize and or make them do that child’s chores

Do you think about the consequences you give out? Do you think how they will affect that child, and or the other children in the house?

Tell us what you are dealing with below in the comments and how you are doling out consequences and why you are picking what you are?

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Traveling With Children

Traveling With Children

Ever been Traveling with children on a road trip or just even have to go get groceries and your child starts screaming while you are driving.

Ruins the whole trip, right?

Check out the only tip that will work!

If I’m wrong, tell me what you do that works.

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Don’t let them steal your joy

Don’t let them steal your joy

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Are you Frustrated?

Just had one of those days?
Or are you trying to deal with one of those children that know how to push your buttons?

One of my children was extremely good at knowing what buttons to push and when to push them. He had learned at an early age my weak spot and he wasn’t afraid to use it. Especially if my hubby wasn’t home. This child would then go up and above in his attempts to get me mad, frustrated and or downright infuriated.

I did learn a trick, and it worked most of the time. Watch the video and see what I learned, and how I used this trick.

You need to understand that this doesn’t always work. It was several years later that this same child decided he was going to attempt to once again do what he could to anger me. And again he only did this when my hubby wasn’t home. My other children asked me why I allowed this child to bully me. It was not until they asked that question that I realized that in fact, that was exactly what he was doing.  It was shortly after this understanding dawned on me that I decided I had enough. I ended up blowing up at him in front of his father. I was so mad I couldn’t even talk right. I did say something I regret now, but my anger was justified and for that, I didn’t apologize, I just apologized later for what I said that was unkind.  From that day forward my son has been treating me with the utmost respect, and kindness.  He has also learned the art of sticking up for other people when someone is bullying them.  Today I am very proud of him and how he has learned to honor and respect people.

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