Parenting is tough.

Parenting is tough.

 Are you discovering that parenting is Tough?

Or is the judgment from others about HOW you parent is harder than you thought?

You’re not alone, watch and share with other parents so we can all stop judging others and make the job of parenting easier and more effective.

I struggled for years wondering if anyone else ever found parenting difficult.  I remember thinking about how much of a failure I must be. I didn’t see other parents struggling like I was. We didn’t have social media back then so there was no evidence that anyone else was having difficulty.  I felt so alone.

I have had parents ask me if I drug my kids to get them to go to bed. If I starved them because they were all thin. If we were poor because none of them were in any sports and they tended to wear different colour socks most of the time.

I was back then, and always will be a transparent person. I tell it like it is. When I struggle, if you are anywhere around me you will know I am struggling. If I screw up, you will know it. If I am having trouble figuring something out, you will hear me ask for advice.  This all allowed other parents to see into my life, but they carefully hid behind their four walls not letting anyone see what struggles they were having.

Parent With Purpose was started to help all parents be able to get help when they are struggling. To help others when they have good advice. To be a community of parents that understand that just being a parent, although the best job in the world, is the hardest.

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Rebellious Children

Rebellious Children

Do you think if you are stubborn in your parenting that will make rebellious children?

Or is a rebellious child going to rebel no matter how you parent?

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Teenage Pregnancy.

Teenage Pregnancy.

Are you feeling alone dealing with teenage pregnancy in your home?

Watch this video and take comfort in knowing it will all work out ok.

Share your story, or ask questions below in the comments.

If your daughter was raped, click here for another video on this subject.  Or if you would like to hear the ‘rest of our story’ about my daughter’s rape click here.

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Parenting a Raped Daughter

Parenting a Raped Daughter

Do you know how to cope with parenting a teen raped?

My daughter was raped, and I remember thinking I had no idea what to do to help her.

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Parenting A Gay Child.

Parenting A Gay Child.

 If you are struggling because you have a gay child this video is for you.

My goal is to help parents in all situations.

If you are Gay and are offended then you didn’t watch the video as my intent is not to judge.
Please feel free to comment AFTER you have watched the video completely!

 

Skillful Conflict Resolution

Skillful Conflict Resolution

Conflict resolution is a fun fancy way of saying, ‘hey, I figured this out.’

If you are having problems getting your little ones to bed or doing any of the daily things that sometimes are just a struggle then watch this video. You will learn how to work out your own ways of developing ‘conflict resolutions’.
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Who has control in your Home?

Who has control in your Home?

Does it seem as if you have lost control in your home? Want to learn how to get it back?

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It is so often heard that one child played one parent/partner against the other.  Why do we let this happen?  The first thing we should ask any time a child has asked us a question is ‘what did your father (mother) say?’

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Tough Love and Addiction

Tough Love and Addiction

Tough love is one of those things that many will judge you for.

I can live with people thinking I am parenting wrong if I KNOW I am doing what is best for my children. Dealing with a son who had a drug addiction, I had to use some tough love.

What is it you are going through that you had to use tough love? Or are you in the midst of dealing with something new and need to talk to someone? Come on over to our Youtube channel subscribe to this website and contact us. I will do my best to contact you as soon as possible.

 

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Stop it!!! Please Don’t judge me!

Stop it!!! Please Don’t judge me!

Don’t judge unless you have all the right answers, which you don’t.
We all seem to think we can see what other parents are doing wrong with their kids, but the truth is we are not in their shoes.
Each child is different, each parent is different.  Some basic rules apply, yes, however, the truth is we really don’t know what is going on in their home.

We struggle with this more than you will know. Teenage gang rape, leading to pregnancy, drug addiction, prostitution all things I thought would never happen to us. I thought I was going to be a good enough parent to ensure these things DIDN’T happen to us.  I was going to be kind, gentle, patient but firm when needed.  And I believe was, but that didn’t solve all the problems that arose.

The truth is, you will never be the perfect parent, so stop judging others. Instead start supporting them, offering to be there to help or just be someone they can come and vent to. Allowing someone to let off steam is one of the best things you can do for them and their children as they will then not take it out on the child.

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Childproofing? Is it Needed

Childproofing? Is it Needed

Are you childproofing your home or making it so your child feels like they are on house arrest?

We can tend to go overboard with wanting to protect our children.  This is a natural response, however, it is one you have to really keep in check.
Allow your children to be human, and as humans, we get hurt, both emotionally and physically.  What makes us stronger is how we learn to be better, strong because of those ‘things’ we have had to endure.

Your child gets sick and their immune system gets better unless you pump them so full of medicines that their body isn’t working to fight it off.  There are times medicines are needed, but more often than not the doctor will give you something that if you just allowed the body to fight, it would get stronger. With our busy lives and tight schedules, we try to hurry the process up, therefore not allowing nature to takes its course.

The same is true about protecting your child in your home. Medicines and toxic things should be up out of a child’s reach, but other than that your child needs to learn what not to do to get hurt. If they fall out of bed, pick them up, hug them, tuck them back into bed but don’t buy a bed rail. Our children will learn, with our guidance or from the ‘school of hard knocks’ what is safe and what is not.

Confessions of a P̶e̶r̶f̶e̶c̶t̶ mom:

My son had an obsession with the hot element on the stove.  I couldn’t figure out a way to stop him from trying to touch it. I panic every time I had to leave the kitchen in fear that he would sneak in to touch the stove. I had to learn to turn the stove off no matter when or for how long I left the kitchen.  Finally one day my husband came along and said ‘this is enough, he wants to touch him, let’s show him’. He turned the burner up high so it was bright red. He grabbed my son’s hand and held it close enough so he could feel the heat, the whole time chatting, ‘this is hot, this will hurt you, this is hot, it will hurt you’.  He held it there until my son was uncomfortable with the heat and tried to move it away.

From that day on, he never even went close to the stove and even as an adult he now has respect for heat.  He loves to cook and campfires, so we didn’t damage his psyche towards being afraid of heat, we just taught him respect for something that could cause him harm. 

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Letting your child lose?

Letting your child lose?

Is it OK to let your child lose? Or does that make you a loser of a parent? Or are we creating a bigger problem? Parent with purpose !

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Don’t miss opportunities.

Don’t miss opportunities.

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